So upon marriage I have now started to see a sobering reality. While, without kids, my husband and I can drop everything and go out together. We cannot just drop everything and go out separately. He's like a parent there, wanting to know where I'm going, when I'll be back, if I'll be safe, and who I am going out with. Now granted, I will do the same thing to him, it's no different which one of use tries to escape the other one.
We are free to live our lives together but not separately. So in order to go out with any girlfriends, I always feel like I have to ask to go out. Check that out non married people. It's not that I am forced to stay home, but I do have to take into consideration my husbands feelings. Crazy.
So because of all of this, I sometimes feel like I burn up bridges. It's not intentional at all, but I think it is why married people end up having kids. They have shunned their single friends not with force, but with the reality that hanging out with just one spouse is incredibly hard. The married couple needs something else to fill the void they used to have full of single carefree friends.
Marriage has so many perks but sometimes is so incredibly lonely.
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